Congrats to all those who matched!! However, this post is for those of you that did not.
First off, I am sooooo sorry, I know exactly how you feel. I also did not match last year, but I was successful today. So there is hope!!!! Last year was truly one of the worst days of my life. But you have to try your best to keep your head up. I remember thinking I was a failure, and I was so embarrassed. I didnât want to see anyone I knew. Luckily my girlfriend was there for me, and she really helped me through a very difficult time. Without her I couldnât have made it, so surround yourself with people that love you and you will get through this. Iâm not going to lie and say it is easy, there will be a grieving process, but things will get easier with time. It is very difficult watching everyoneâs excitement and joy, while you just want to disappear. But in the end, these things just happen, and we all risk it when we decide to pursue orthopedics as a specialty. Importantly, donât let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do. Even my student affairs office was trying to force me into scrambling into another specialty. I knew ortho was for me, and I wasnât going to change my mind on one days notice. I did a research year and applied again. I received almost 30 interviews, many of which I did not get the previous year. Just take an honest look at your application and decide what is best for you. My grades and boards scores were all very good, so I decided research was the best way to improve my application. Luckily it worked out for me, but it was by far the most humbling experience in my life. In my class I had the highest grades and board scores of all 12 people that applied and I was the only one that didnât match. Everyone in the class knew me as the Ortho guy, and yet I watched as all of them received a spot that I didnât get. Itâs a tough pill to swallow, but you have to roll with the punches. I know you will grieve, I did for a long time, but honestly it doesnât help. Find out what youâre going to do to accomplish your goal and go for it full stride. Itâs not fair that it happened to you, but it DID!! So try to make the best of a really shi#ty situation.
I know itâs tough and I really appreciated this website last year and all the people that helped me through this difficult time. So if you need anything!!!Feel free to pm me and I will help however I can.
Keep your head up, everything happens for a reason. Too bad we donât know the reason!!!